When I first came out 10 years ago, while living in a small town in Connecticut, I struggled with my identity. A lot. I didn't know who I was or who I wanted to be, and I didn't know if the people around me would be able to love who I was becoming. I spent a year in the closet grappling with the notion of masculinity and where I fit in; I was dealing with intense anxiety and depression as I was preparing to lead an inauthentic, secretive, and short life. I had seen no positive representation of trans people, so I didn't know living a happy life was an option.

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When I finally came out, I was embraced with so much more love than I had imagined I deserved. With time, I learned to understand, accept, and love who I am, and I started to find my groove in educating others in my school.

 

In college, I had an opportunity to deliver a TEDx talk about trans inclusion and allyship, I decided to take a leap of faith and try my hand at public speaking and advocacy work. I started to deliver presentations for more and more organizations and eventually was able to make a full-time career as a transgender and LGBTQIA+ inclusion public speaker and a diversity, equity, and inclusion consultant. Using relevant statistics and data, personal stories, and more than a little bit of humor, I've been able to reach tens of thousands of hearts around the globe at hospitals, companies, government agencies, congregations, parent support groups, and community centers. If you'd like, you can learn more about my public speaking work here. 

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In 2020, I moved from Boston to St. Louis, Missouri with my wife when she began medical school. I wasn't sure what to expect, and was surprised and grateful to find a vibrant community of co-conspirators and champions in the fight for trans and queer equality. I stepped up as the first advocacy chair of PFLAG St. Louis in 2023, and regularly visit the state capital to testify against anti-trans legislation that targets my community. The community of advocates and activists in Missouri have taught me so much about how to build the world you want to live in. 

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In 2024, after six years of work, I published my first book: My Child is Trans, Now What? Which focuses on building joyful, supportive environments and futures for our transgender and nonbinary loved ones. I have joined over 100 parent support groups, and have spent countless hours one-on-one with parents and families discussing how to support their family members. 

 

My work extends to several different fields, but it all points back to the same thing. In everything I do. I'm just trying to maximize my good.​ Whoever you are, if you're reading this wondering if this means there could be love and hope for you too, the answer is yes. There is hope, there is opportunity, and it will get better. I fight every day to make sure that's true. 

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